Eric’s Blog

The biggest problem with knowing how to handle oneself and get things done is that everyone else looks to you for help solving problems.

I don’t mind helping people, but this eventually turns into me doing everything for everyone else and never getting any of the things done that I want to accomplish.

I guess saying “no” is an important skill set to have in addition to the skills that I mentioned earlier.

I just mentioned this to a friend and he said, “I’ve been telling you this since I met you.” He’s right of course, I have a difficult time saying no. He also concurred with me knowing how to handle myself, how to get things done, and going out of my own way to solve other people’s problems for them.

The thing is, I do know how to say “no”. I only say it when necessary. Most of the time, I can stop what I’m doing to help other people, then go back to doing what I was trying to accomplish and get both things completed.

I usually complain about not having enough time to get my own work done the entire time I’m working on my project, even though I stopped working on my tasking to help someone else.

I guess that means my problem is that I like to complain about things that aren’t really a problem for me.

That’s actually a really good self-actualization piece for me.

The more I think about it, the truer it is. I like to complain about things even though they’re not really problems for me. I wonder why that is?

It could be because I want to connect with other people but don’t really know how. In some way, solving problems and complaining to another person is a way of finding common ground with my fellow humans.

It could be some sort of over-inflated sense of self-importance. Look at me, I was so busy helping others that I don’t have time to do my own thing.

Maybe it’s just a plea for attention?

I’ll have to delve a bit deeper to understand why I do this. I think that will go hand-in-hand with counteracting it. I’ve already resolved that I talk too much. I’ve also concluded that opening my big, fat mouth does one of two things:

1.) It pisses people off

– or –

B.) No one listens to what I’m saying

Well, now that I’m aware, I can take steps to prevent further transgressions. As with anything, it will require some more self-reflection, awareness, and meditation.